Yesterday I touched a bit on this topic..boys! Bug is such a boy. I find myself frequently wondering "what am I going to do with him?"
He's not like A (and rightfully so. They're individuals, and then there's the fact that he's a boy and she's a girl). But A has always been able to sit still for a ridiculous amount of time. I knew that was abnormal, but the contrast between her attention span and Bug's amazes me!
When Bug gets quiet (which is next to never) I know he's doing something he shouldn't. A was always quiet, and loved her space. When she was quiet she was hardly ever getting into trouble.
With A I subscribed heavily to the "you should be able to take your kids anywhere and expect them to behave." Yesterday I had to take Bug to the chiropractor with me. He hasn't been in so long, I don't think he remembers anything, so I was hoping he'd be intimidated enough to stay out of things! It worked, but he did sit up on the table with me while the TENS machine worked to loosen up my shoulder muscles...all in all, though, it was a success.
I just have to put so much more thought into things with Bug. There have been several times in the last 3 months where I've had to tuck him under my arm and carry him to the van from a public place while he screamed and flailed. I will never judge another parent again (ok, I'll try really hard not to)!
Just last week I had a neighbor over to visit. While we were visiting the kids had their morning snack of graham crackers and milk. Bug got bored and has recently decided that spitting is awesome. 'Nuff said! Our poor neighbor. She never had small children (her step kids were teenagers when she and her husband got married) and none of her and her husband's friends have kids, so I'm going to guess when she got sprayed with milk she was a little more disgusted than someone with kids would have been!
I was so embarrassed! But what do you do? I apologized and went on.
It also happens that the day before that particular neighbor came over Bug's left ear began draining. He's had tubes in his ears for 18 months and we've never had any ear infections. The tubes were doing their jobs, but his ear ran (and dripped--bleh!) like a nose! It even got crusty from running so much. I was fascinated, I had no idea an ear could do that! Our neighbor was probably ready to bolt for the door!
Again, I'm trying to give Bug opportunities to explore things and get messy without getting into trouble. I've designated Monday as "water-play Monday." Bug gets to play in the bathtub and play with things he doesn't usually get to (like the squirt bottle, my ladles and a watering can). I'm hoping this will get us through the cold months ahead when his outside time is restricted.
Hopefully by next spring I'll still have my sanity and the house will still be standing!